Saturday, September 24, 2011

New topic new topic

If any of you guys have anything that you would me to address or talk about! Message me and I will try my best to answer it. If I don't know the answer I will research it and post it and also where I where I found it! I hope you all have a gr8 weekend!!!

Sunday, August 28, 2011

i got a whole heep of hair!

These were taken on my 28 Nappaversity// 8/17/11
MY OH MY HAS MY HAIR GROWN!

i washed, conditioned, trimmed, got a protein treatment, and got it blown out.

i got less than a inches trimmed off. Last time I got my hair trimmed was over 10 months ago. Thats pretty good. That shows I have been taking good care of my hair1

i decided to see what it would look like pulled back into a puff.

i decided to twist it up, later on that night








Sunday, August 21, 2011

updates and posts coming soon...

I apologize for no recent updates. I have been in the process of moving and getting settle. Once I get settle I will try my best to upload at least one to two post a week. But in the meantime in between time, I will be updating a post this week along with pictures. I hope everyone has a blessed and successful week! Take care!
Love NaturalNikkiDST

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Natural Frustrations | I'm Not Trying to Be Erykah Badu JUST Because I am Natural!!

I was just called "Jill Scott" . I am sick and tired of all of these natural stereotypes. I went natural so that I could be myself 100%, not so that I could be stereotyped as something more or less than  me. Unlike most, I don't try to be anyone or anything.... I just AM. I am me.

Not Erykah Badu, not Lauryn Hill, Macy Gray, or Jill Scott either. It's crazy how people that wear all kind of crazy, unrealistic, weaves and wigs don't get called a different name  or stereotype as the hair changes {you know, like BECKY or HANNAH, better yet Lee Wang (although they AREN'T clearly themselves {ever}) but the moment we go natural, we're called the names of the faces that wear kinky curly hair, {although it grows out of all of our scalps in a highly textured form}. 

This is the way my hair grows. I hate how people see the one external change and it changes the entire way that I am perceived. Are we that shallow that a change in hairstyle changes how a person is seen? Yes, I do believe that my decision to go natural symbolically represents my mentality (like breaking away from the oh too familiar collective consciousness that too many engage in) but, nevertheless, I am still basically the same person, just a little more aware. Not Erykah Badu, Not little Miss Afrocentric or Miss save the planet. Just Nikki. 

          Dear World, 
 Please treat me the same as I was treated before going natural. 
Yours till death do us part, 
NaturalNikkiDST 


P.S. I'm still the same chica as before.

7 Signs You May Be Obsessed With Your Natural Hair

I found this information on CurlyNikki.com and I think that I am obessed with my hair...well all but number one.lol. When the love of your natural hair crosses the line to Obsessionville, it may be time to reevaluate some things and reprioritize. The domination of one's thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image, desire, etc. is the definition of obsession. Here are 7 signs that you are dangerously close:

1. You treat your hair like another human being

You often refer to your coils as "her", as if you are speaking about one of your friends and have even given them a name.

"Mahogany and I are spending some quality time together this weekend”.

2. No conversation goes by without mention of your hair
Your friends are apprehensive about even mentioning the word “hair” for fear that you will start on a natural hair tirade. You repeatedly chant India Arie’s “I Am Not My Hair” however; your afro almost always ends up being the topic of discussion. You turn something totally unrelated into a dialogue about natural hair.

Your friend: “It’s raining outside”
You: “I’m glad I’m natural, I don’t have to worry about rain”

3. You spend hour after hour perusing the Natural Hair blogs and Twitter
Your entire day is centered around the latest and greatest products or hairstyles for natural hair. You find it difficult to focus at work until you’ve had your cup of joe and done your daily natural hair blog browsing and you can’t wait to get home to your laptop in the evenings to continue.

4. You are always giving unsolicited hair advice

You are in line at Macy’s and overhear two ladies behind you talking about how damaged their hair is. You immediately turn around and start testifying about how healthy your hair is because you are natural. You then proceed to tell them that their hair will never be healthy until they make the decision to let go of the creamy crack.

5. You are like Chicago in the movie, “Poetic Justice”, walking around with your hair tool of choice so that at any given moment, you can whip it out and coif your mane.

6. You change your hairstyle several times throughout the day to showcase how versatile natural hair is. At least that's the reasoning you give but the real reaosn is you just can't keep your hands out of your hair nor your face out of the mirror.

7. You must publicly display your love for your natural hair by purchasing every natural hair t-shirt on the market.

Nothing wrong with a dose of pride about your decision to live life as a naturalista, but too much of anything is never good. BTW, after writing this, I realize I described myself in this post. ☺

Are you hair obsessed?

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Let's Talk Hair: Shedding vs Breakage..What's The Difference??

Hola Chicas/Chicos..I pray all is well with everyone..

So, this is a great topic mainly because I have had a plethora of natural lovelies inquire about their hair shedding and the assumption that natural hair does not shed..WRONG..I can attest by personal experience because everytime I take my braids out I shed like a St. Bernard whenever I wash my hair..and that's no lye :-)))

Understanding the difference between hair breakage and shedding is an important part of any healthy hair regimen. Many people use these terms interchangeably to refer to any hair that falls from the head; however, this misinformed language can be a recipe for hair disaster. You must be able to properly differentiate between these two very specific forms of hair "loss" in order to effectively address even the smallest of your hair needs. This post will educate us on the difference between hair shedding and hair breakage, and offer strategies to help you combat both hair problems.


Just What Is Shedding??

  • In its truest sense, shed hair is hair that has reached the end of its growing cycle and naturally falls from the scalp along with its tiny, white "root" attached. 
  • This is not the actual hair root that is secured deeply within your scalp, but it is the bulb root or base of the hair strand found on the scalp-originating end. 
  • It appears white because the hair stops producing melanin (color) at the point in its growth cycle right before it gets ready to fall. 
  • If your actual hair root came out along with the hair, you would no longer be able to produce hair from that same place on the scalp ever again! 
  • If a hair does not possess this white root bulb, then it is not a naturally shed hair, rather, a broken one. Shed hair tends to be longer in length than broken hairs which are generally short pieces of varying lengths.
  • In general, shedding should not be a major concern for you and should be seen as a sign of a healthy, normal, functioning scalp. There is no need to fear shedding unless it is tied to a medical issue. If you notice rapid hair loss from shedding or hair loss accompanied by a host of other problems, please consult a medical professional. Most shedding, however, is simply nature taking its course.

Shedding..Did You Know
  • You must understand that because shedding is a natural, internal process, it may not respond to topical, external treatments. Some have praised garlic shampoos or "garlic scalp rubs" for reducing shedding, but there has been no clear concensus on the effectiveness of garlic as a remedy for shedding. Shedding is also not easily solved by protein or moisture treatments because it has nothing to do with the hair shaft itself, but is a response to hormonal influences on the hair follicle and is dependent on growth cycles. When a hair completes its life cycle, which generally last s 4-6 years, its final act is the shedding we experience. This cannot be prevented.
  • Also, our hair naturally cycles in and out of seasonal shedding phases which may last days or weeks at a time in some individuals. Research suggests that peak shedding rates occur during the fall season. A healthy head of hair may shed as many as 50- 100 hairs per day, though I personally believe this amount to be a grand stretch. You should be concerned if your shedding suddenly increases to a rate that was uncommon to you before, or if the shedding seems to be prolonged over the course of several weeks or months.
  • Do keep in mind that there are special periods in the human life cycle where shedding is naturally increased. For example, women who are undergoing a bout of postpartum shedding after having a baby may have to deal with increased shedding for several months until their normal hormone levels return. Other conditions which may increase your shedding rate are: 
  • *styling methods that place stress on the follicles
  • *birth control/menstrual cycles/menopause
  • *pregnancy
  • *heredity (runs in the family)
  • *crash dieting/ low protein diets, poor diet
  • *illnesses with high fever as a prevailing symptom
Please consult with a medical professional to diagnose any prolonged, abnormal shedding or other unusual scalp conditions.

 Sooo..What is Breakage??

  • Breakage on the other hand is not natural, and is an indication of an imbalance of important forces within the hair strand. 
  • Broken hairs do not fall naturally from the head, but are typically a sign of mishandling or abuse. In the stages before a hair ultimately breaks, the hair first becomes discolored and experiences cuticle loss. Eventually, the fibers begin to split and ultimately there is breakage. 
Breakage..Did You Know??
  • So what causes breakage? Hair can be weakened and damaged by anything from rough handing and sun exposure to coloring and straightening chemicals. 
  • Breakage is also more common with a hair's age; older hairs, usually the hairs nearest the ends, have the greatest tendency to break due to normal wear and tear. 
  • When breakage isn't a response to physical manipulation and abuse, it is most often triggered by the lack of moisture in the hair strand. 
  • Other types of breakage may be caused by the over- structuring of the hair strand with protein treatments done in excess. 
  • A prompt, and proper response to breakage will help you stop breakage in its tracks. 
Breakage..Ways To Prevent It
  • Moisture: Hair needs water to maintain its elasticity, or ability to stretch. Since water is the ultimate moisturizer, water-based products are best for really getting the greatest moisture benefit. Moisturizers are simply products that are water-based and nourish your hair deep within the strand. Products with moisturizing properties tend to be your conditioners and other specific moisturizer sprays or creams. Moisturizers may also contain large amounts of protein, but these protein based moisturizers do not have the moisturizing benefit that moisture-based moisturizers have. Check labels to gauge protein content. Good moisturizers will not contain cheap, filler ingredients like petrolatum, mineral oil, or lanolin. Avoid products that claim moisturizing benefits and contain these ingredients. There is nothing moisturizing about them! Petrolatum and mineral oil are sealants that seal out the precious moisture our hair needs. 
  • Seal In The Moisture: Our hair naturally contains moisture, but because our hair is also naturally porous, keeping the moisture inside is a difficult task. Providing additional sources of outside moisture, or external moisture supplementation, is a must for black hair care. Water molecules and moisture from these supplemental moisturizing products easily pass into the hair shaft, but they pass out just as easily. The moisture you apply needs to held in by something. Oil. Natural oils like jojoba, olive, carrot, or coconut oil seem to work best. A light coating of oil after your daily moisturizer will help seal the moisture inside. Oils are made of large molecules. These molecules are too large to absorbed by the hair strand. Applying oils to the hair and scalp will coat them and trap the moisture that is inside on the inside and the moisture that is outside on the outside. The key is to use the oil to "lock in the moisture." If you use oils without a moisturizer or before one, the oil will seal the moisture out of the hair strand and lead to a coated feel and eventual dryness.  
  • REMEMBER! Oils DO NOT Moisturize: Perhaps a words like "nourish" would be better than moisturize. Oil alone will not and cannot moisturize within the hair shaft. An oil (grease) can only coat the outside of the strand, and give it shine- the illusion of moisture. Oil molecules are hydrophobic which means they repel and do not readily mix with water. Remember, if you apply an oil product to your hair before you have added a moisturizing product, you have created a seal on your hair strand that water and moisture cannot penetrate. This is why I always recommend using my Natty Butter on damp or wet hair..or you can use it in conjunction with a water based moisturizer like the SheaMoisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie.

Naughty Hair..When Nothing Seems To Work

You handle your hair gently, you've tried the moisture, you've tried the protein . . . but nothing is working! What gives?
Well, occasionally, over the course of your new regimen, you will notice times where your hair and your breakage are simply, "unreadable" and do not respond to your attempts to treat them. Many times, hair
that does not respond to treatment is burdened with product buildup. Even the lightest products can accumulate and build up on the hair shaft rendering your moisturizing and protein replacement efforts futile. Other times, the reason hair does not respond positively to treatment is because the underlying problem has been misdiagnosed, and the wrong treatment has been applied (i.e. more protein on hair with protein overload, or more moisture on over-moisturized hair).


Sooo...What To Do??
  • Clarify: Time to clarify to remove an over abundance of product..Try the O'Natural clarifyer..the Bentonite Clay Treatment w/ ACV and Aloe Vera Gel. This wonderful natural goody does wonders with removing all things gone buildup in the hair..remember, always follow up with a deep conditioner afterwards, as clarifyers remove natural oils and moisture, so you must replenish.
  • Protein: Treat yourself to a protein treatment as well..you can do an all natural protein treatment using Coconut Milk, honey and Extra Virgin Olive Oil.
  • Deep Condition with a moisture based conditioner and add honey and extra virgin olive oil for an extra burst of moisture. Place a plastic cap over your head and sit under a heat cap for 30-45 min.
  • Whew: At this point, your hair should be cleaned and conditioned and you should be able to determine whether or not your next product step needs to include more moisture or more protein.
Happy Healthy Strong Hair

credits: some info found at www.associatedcontent.com/article/278612/the_fine_art_of_protein_and_moisture.html?cat=69

Let's Talk Hair..Great items for TRANSITIONERS!!

So anywho..if you are one of those lovely naturalistas who decided against taking the plunge and doing a Big Chop or BC, this is some great info for you. I have searched blogs and forums for items and products that many transitioners favor, myself included as I remember the days that I transitioned for 16 months..only to cut it all of and begin anew..so here goes and I truly hope this helps.

My Top Picks For Transitioners:
  • Co-Washing: Since we have discovered the value of co-washing, we now need a great conditioner that's inexpensive, provides great slip, and gives us moist tresses..Right!! Well my top pick for great co-washing for transitioners is....HERBAL ESSENCE HELLO HYDRATION (it does have a few silicones, but the good news is that the silicones are water soluble and will not cause air pockets in the hair follicle..yippee)..Available at just about any drugstore
  • Detangling: Ok, this is of the utmost importance..A great detangling tool will help to minimize breakage as we know that fine line (line of demarcation) is a narrow one to tread on the road to a shower or sink full of our beautiful tresses..who want's that?? So it is a must to have a detangling tool that has wide teeth and doesn't snag. Sooo, my top pic is (drumroll please)  JILLBERE SHOWER COMB (available at Sally's beauty supply or Amazon www.amazon.com for the low low)
  • Deep Conditioning: Ok, extremely important, ladies!!! Deep Conditioning is a sure way to provide moisture and strength to your curly, coily and kinky tresses. So, a great deep conditioner is a must. My top picks are: SheaMoisture Deep Treatment Masque, Herbal Essence Hello Hydration and Avalon Organics Grapeseed and Oilive Oil conditioner). These are great for providing moisture and softness..but my fav would be the SheaMoisture Deep Treatment Masque (Target and Walmart and at both online)...ya gotta love an all natural conditioner where the top ingredients are moisture based..love it love it!
  • Special Treatments: Ok, ladies..special treatments are great to ensure strength, a clean healthy scalp and hydrated hair..So some of my favs for those special treatments that you can do anywhere from weekly to monthly are....Bentonite Clay (great for an all natural clarifyer), Henna (available at any local Indian grocery or www.mehandi.com and www.hennasooq.com), Coconut Milk (excellent for protein treatments..available at your local grocery store)..My top pick out of these would be BENTONITE CLAY (available at any health food store or grocery... I purschase mines on alikaynatural.com for $5)...This is an absolute wonderful way to clarify your hair and strengthen it without stripping the natural moisture from your hair. (Just mix Bentonite Clay, Aloe Vera Gel and ACV to the proportions of what's needed for your hair and to the consistency of pudding and apply for 15-20 minutes to damp hair, do not allow to dry, and rinse with cool water). Your hair will be so fresh and so clean clean..ahem, thanks Outkast.
  • Cool Water Rinsing: Ok..so, I know you have heard of the ever so popular and beneficial properties of rinsing with cool water..but what's even more beneficial is adding a splash of ACV (Apple Cider Vinegar) to your cool water as your final rinse..The brand of ACV that gets my vote is ...BRAGG'S Raw Unfiltered APPLE CIDER VINEGAR (available in most grocery stores in the organic food section or any health food store), just 2 TBSP of ACV to 2 Cups of H2O and voila..this is actually your FINAL rinse.
  • Sealing your Tresses: Ok, so sealing your tresses are an absolute MUST.. Our ends can be the life of the party or the apple that spoils the bunch, just depending on how ya care for em'. Now there are all sorts of elements that you can seal your ends with, Extra Virgin Coconut Oil, Olive Oil, Jojoba Oil, Grapeseed Oil, Shea Butter, and what have you..but the winner for me is...Oyin Handmade products Shine and define and whipped pudding. Now, from the reviews and speaking with other naturals, these products are great because it packs a lot of moisture and some wonderful beneficial ingredients at just the right amounts, all in one. It has definitely been my favorite staple product on my journey for my hair and skin.
  • Thermal Heat Cap or Huetiful Steamer or a Plain Ole Shower Cap: Ok, so we know that deep conditioning is a must for keeping those tresses moisturized and healthy, but adding a bit of heat to the deep conditioner while applied to your head is a great way to get the scalp stimulated and the pores open to receive all the goodness you have to give, you can use a thermal heat cap, a steamer or just gather those tresses into a shower cap while showering and voila!..My absolute favorite is the HUETIFUL HAIR STEAMER (www.amazon.com )..hand's down it is great for giving your hair a highly moisturized boost of natural goodness.
  • Nightly Protection: Of course, you can't say goodnight to your locks before protecting the moisture that's in them with a satin or silk scarf, satin or silk bonnet or a satin or silk pillowcase. All of these are great, but my absolute favorite is my SATIN PILLOWCASE (available at Sally's Beauty Supply for the low low). Other naturals swear by these puppies especially when they pineapple their hair (pulling all hair up to a very high ponytail similar to the look of a pineapple), and in addition to wearing either a scarf or bonnet, they say they can't live without their satin pillow...just sayin'
So, there you have it..some staple products for those who wish to keep their transitioned tresses clean, healthy and looking  Great!! I hope this helps.

Have A Happy Healthy Day!

Surviving Your First Year as an O’Natural

All naturals, even the most experienced, can look back on their first year and momentarily feel excitement, freedom, fear, hopelessness, joy and at times discouragement. Well, being that it is my year anniversary since I’ve had a relaxer and began my transition to O’Natural-hood, I thought I would make this article about your first year as a natural the focus. Being that the first year is a great milestone, I just want to say well done beautiful naturals for hanging in there. I realize, as many do, that going natural is a difficult decision and the scares and lack of social acceptance that many have met could have been enough to throw in the towel, slam the door, return to the ‘creamy crack’. But, before you give up, here is a list of support to help you on your way to your year anniversary as an O’Natural.
The List:
  • Educate Yourself: I cannot stress how important it is to research, research, research. Increasing your knowledge about your hair will prove extremely beneficial to the success of healthy beautiful natural hair. Some wonderful websites are: Nappturality, CurlyNikki, Natural Chica..just to name a few. And don’t forget about the huge library of Youtube videos. Education is KEY! 
  • Experiment:Have fun with your O’Natural. Again, the huge library of Youtube videos were absolute lifesavers for me in expressing new styles to rock my hair. The sad fact is that many of us never learned how to ‘Properly’ take care of our natural coils, kinks and curls. Learn what product works best for YOU. Sure there are hundreds of products that promise to do this or do that, but before you get too wrapped up and have to attend PJ Annonymous(Product Junkyism), stick to what your hair likes and know that what may work for one natural may not work for you..and that’s ok. Experiement with styles that fit you best..if you don’t have the head for a fro hawk..that’s ok, rock a twist out..Trust me, you will soon master your routine and what hairstyles work for you. 
  • Find A Support System: Going natural is not always a decision supported by our close ones. I can’t tell you how many stories I have heard from many naturals whose families, spouses or friends didn’t support their journey into natural hood. Comments like, ‘nappy-headed’ ‘bald headed’ kinka bugs’ ‘you’ll never get a job looking like that’ ‘men don’t like nappy hair’ etc. etc..almost caused many of them hold up the white flag. Therefore, it is of utmost importance to find individuals who share your same story and can offer support and comfort you when needed. And it’s always exciting to begin a new venture when surrounded by like minds. Remember, there are online communities that offer tons of support when you need it. I must say I have met some awesome people who are also on this journey to Natural-ville. 
  • Document:It is sooo much fun to document your progress and later look back on it. Many naturals document on facebook, other natural blog sites and/or on youtube. Documenting your journey will help you realize that your hair is growing even when you think that it is not. It also helps you see where the health of your hair was and where it is currently. 
  • Be Optimistic: Keep negativity to a minimum. Sometimes, it may be necessary to tell someone that their comment was not polite and you don’t appreciate their destructive remarks. If they continue with their disrespect, then you may need to rethink that friendship and keep your distance. Hopefully they will see that the error of their ways created some distance and opt for more positive comments. 
  • Keep Your Eyes On the Prize: Remember, there was a reason that you wanted to go natural. When you experience those ‘bad days’ try to remember that. Everyone’s reason is different that made them want to go natural and leave process city..keep your eyes focused on what yours was. 
  • It’s Okay to have a bad hair day: These happen..point blank!! And they don’t just happen because you are O’Natural. It happens because it just happens, just as sometimes your outfit isn’t quite up to par, or your makeup looks like Tammy Fay Baker…it just happens! Sometimes hair, whether natural or relaxed, just will not cooperate…no matter how much you sweet talk it. It’s like a relationship, just give it a little space, don’t take it personal, make up and begin again the next day. Don’t continue to ‘nag’ it…and you’ll get along jesss fine.
Well, my lovely ladies and gents,I hope this help keep you moving towards your goal of O’Naturalism.
Happy Healthy Hair

I got this information from Domininque Goosby from All Things Natural. Dominique is a wife, mother, sister and friend with a passion for spreading knowledge  about all things O’Natural that is beneficial to the mind, body and spirit..Leaving the corporate world of Interior Design  prompted her to  focus full time on my family, homeschooling and perfecting her soon to be O’Natural product line.

Natural Hair Products for Under $10

Who doesn’t love a deal? I know I do! Editor and creator of All Things O’Natural  Dominique Goosby Harris (@allthingsonatrl) is back to school us on some awesome finds for under $10. You know what you can get for $10? Not much! That might be two gallons of gas (depending on where in the country you live) But Goosby got us and she’s about to let us know which shampoo and conditioners are great in a pinch.

When it comes to beauty, whether it’s hair care or skin care, it can put a damper in our pockets, right! In our quest to find the latest greatest products that will moisturize, boost, calm, defrizz, detangle, clean or clarify, it can become increasingly easy to succomb to product junky-ism…Soooo, I have researched some natural shampoos and conditioners that have been deemed as AWESOME in the moisture, cleansing, and detangling department, and all for under $10.

Trader Joe’s Tea Tree Tingle Shampoo and Conditioner $3.99 ea at Trader Joes…$7.20ea on Amazon.com
Shea Moisture Shampoos and Conditioners. $9.99 ea ( Target stores and Target.com)…this line is my personal favorite
**Suave Professionals Almond and Shea Butter Shampoo and Conditioner $2.50ea (Walgreens, Rite Aid, Walmart, Target)
Yes To Carrots Nourishing Shampoo and Conditioner $8.99 ea (Walgreens, Rite Aid, Target)
Yes To Cucumbers Shampoo and Conditioner $8.99 ea (Walgreens, Rite Aid, Target)
Herbal Essesnce Totally Twisted Shampoo and Conditioner $3.99 ea (Walmart, Target, Walgreen)
**Herbal Essence Hello Hydration Shampoo and Conditioner $3.99 ea (Walmart, Target, Walgreen)
Giovanni Smooth as Silk Shampoo and Conditioner $7-$8 ea. (Walmart, Target)
**Suave Naturals line$2-$3 (Walmart, Target, Rite Aid, Walgreens)
Tresemme Naturals line$4-$5 (Walmart, Target, Rite Aid, Walgreens)
V05 Tea Therapy$2 (Walmart, Target)
Organix Shampoo and Conditioner Line$7 (Walgreens, Target)
Afroveda Carrot Seed Poo Bar $7 (http://www.afroveda.com/)*
Ayurvedic Herb Shampoo Bar $8 (http://www.chagrinvalleysoapandcraft.com/) *

*Shampoo Bars are EXCELLENT for cleansing!!
**Contains sulfates
Ok, beauties…I hope you enjoy!
Happy Saving = Happy Shopping

So ladies, what are your bargain faves for natural hair?

Thursday, June 30, 2011

New Protective Style

The gr8 think about having a protective style is that you can literally get up and go each morning. I sometimes find that when you don't bother your hair it grows. I grease my hair every other day with my 17 Essential Oils and I also spray my Greg's Juice in my hair too( which is gr8 to use during the summer months) and go. Below I will show you what i use in my hair when I have a protective style in my hair.




I took my braids out!!!!

I love thick hair and I got a lot of it. check out my pictures!!!! I am doing one full year of protective styles. I am entering into month 7.. Typically the only time you will see my hair out is when I am washing it, and/ or about to put it in another protective styles. Click on the read more tab

Top 10 Reasons to Go Natural

Let me begin by stating, that this list is not meant as an attack on relaxed, or otherwise processed hair wearers. In fact my last relaxer was in October of 2007, so as someone who has gone through the mental and physical transformation and journey into the world of natural hair I can totally sympathize with those who are reluctant, if not defensive, when it comes to the discussion of natural versus permed hair. However, through educating myself both academically and practically [I've posted a list of resources at the bottom], and through the support of friends, family, and other naturals, I came to the conclusion that I had to make a change.

After battling for years with insecurities about my hair's length and texture, and even becoming a self-proclaimed "weavologist," I realized that I had never stopped to question, or even consider that there might be another way of living and seeing myself. Even after learning how detrimental these hair processes are to black women physically, mentally, and emotionally it still took some time before I could gather the courage to take that step for myself towards becoming a happier, healthy, more authentic me. Now that I'm on the other side, I hope to offer to anyone who cares to consider an alternative that for me has been well worth the struggle.

I do not condemn those who choose to wear weaves or relax their hair, because after all that was me a couple of years ago [natural for 27 months whoop whoop!!]. However, I do encourage anyone who like me, never even questioned the insanity that (most often) is relaxed hair to consider the following arguments for why you should make the change.

Monday, June 20, 2011

You put a WHAT on your 3 year old?

So I was browsing through facebook this weekend, and I came across a facebook friend of mines who took a picture of her daughter's hair. And she proudly writes my three year old daughter's hair! It was bone straight. Before I posted a comment I read the post prior to mines. One person asked her did she relax her daughter hair, and she proudly writes yeah I did. Then another person writes, I had to do that with my child's hair because I didn't know what to do with it. Then another write I hope you take care of her ends. I look at the poor baby's hair and I notices she had split ends with straight hair. So not only did the poor baby have a chemical in her hair but the baby also had damaged ragedy ends. So I commented why would you but a chemical that strong in a three year old hair. Most doctors recommend that you w8 at least until the child is 7 or 8 years old. She goes her hair is curly and I didn't know how to manage it. So I l8r commented and said did you research how to maintain curly/natural hair. I said all you would have needed was a wide tooth comb, conditors, and used bows that did not have metal endings, and wet her hair when you needed to detangle it. Also go to your daily grocery store and buy some oil to seal the moisture and her hair would have been fine. But I guess its too late for that, whats done is done. I am not knocking perms because I use to have one, but three years old?!?!?!?  At what age do you think a parent should put a relaxer in their child's hair?

So Just What Does It Mean To Be Natural? Everyone's Got An Opinion.

Hey Curly Nation!

It's NaturalNikkiDST, and today, I would like to discuss the concept of "being natural". Just what does it mean to be natural anyway? I actually thought I knew what it meant until I visited various chats and online discussions, but now I'm a tad bit confused.:( I've always thought that being natural in its basic definition was being free of relaxers. Now, after being a part of different online conversations, I've found that the concept of what is natural can vary from person to person. I remember visiting a Facebook fan page that was not a natural hair page, and they posted the question "What does it mean to be natural?" Of course, I looked at several people's answers before posting my own and was shocked and amazed that some people actually believe that being natural included being free of weaves, wigs, and any type of extensions (such braids). I thought that was rather absurd considering the fact that your natural hair will still remain natural even while covered under weave, because it does not alter your natural hair pattern (I digress). I then proceeded to give my opinion which was along the lines of what I stated previously, and tried to educate people on the use of extensions as protective styles by natural women. I was then verbally chastised by one young woman and told that women who do that only do that because they don't want to do their hair. She also told me that she had been natural for quite a while and didn't use protective styles, that I didn't need to either, and that people should do their own hair in a nutshell. I did try to explain that everyone is different and that there is no right or wrong to this natural hair thing, but I wasn't going to argue. I just left the conversation with a "to each his own" type of comment, and kept it moving. Upon further analysis of this whole natural hair debate, I've realized one thing. For some people, natural hair is a state of being and not just a simple change in hair texture. In other words, unless you're rocking your own natural hair 24/7, in some people's eyes, YOU'RE NOT NATURAL.  I say, WHO CARES! Whether you rock your natural hair as an Afro or under a weave, we all belong to the same sisterhood of naturals and should embrace each other for our differences as well what we have in common. As I climb off my soapbox, I hope you all have a wonderful start to the week! Until next time Curly Nation!


  Live Free! Live Natural!

Monday, June 13, 2011

Finding Your Natural Hair Swag

Lots of self-confidence is needed to rock natural hair.

Name a few things you did to help build your confidence... to find your swag in order to feel comfortable with and embrace your natural curls.
NaturalNikkiDST Response:1. Educated myself on care methods and styling options. I became the expert at looking after my curls. It's the lack of skill and knowledge that will send you running back to that flat iron or relaxer.

2. Practiced Positive self talk and did my best to push the negative, self-defeating, and destructive thoughts from my mind.

3. Took less stock in other people's opinions. That meant the compliments and the snide remarks. It was my thoughts and feelings that counted.

4. Found a support network of amazing women at NaturallyCurly.com, CurlyNikki.com,various YouTube uploads, Natural Sunshine.ning.com, and of couse my blog spot...naturalnikkidsthair.blogspot.com. It always helps knowing that you're not the only one going through.


What about you?!

Saturday, June 11, 2011

Detangling 101

I did not write this blog personally. However I do agree and do these tips myself so the moment I read it. I felt like I wrote.lol. I added in  some pictures because I am a visual person. Anywho this post is all about detangling. The how tos and the please don'ts...

Dishing on Detangling
by Cassidy of NaturalSelectionblog.com
Detangling 101
Start with a wet head. Hair doesn't have to be soaking wet, but it should at least be damp.
Scratch that, before your head is wet, make sure its deep conditioned. Dry hair is more prone to break. A recent deep conditioning is a great way to ensure that your hair is in tip-top condition.
Add some slip. I like to use creamy conditioners to help my detangling tool glide down my strands. Other options are oils and butters depending on your preference. Whatever you choose, be sure to have some sort of lubrication on your hair to help out the process.
Eyes on the prize. If you are busy, in a rush, or distracted, drop the comb and step away. Improper detangling can break your hair and cause irreversible damage. To prevent both of these tangle travesties, make sure you've got time, energy, and focus to dedicate to the process.
Bottom up not top down. Never detangle from the root to the tip. Make sure you go in the other direction from the tips of your hair towards your scalp. Going from root to tip will just cause more tangles at the bottom of your hair.
Work in sections. This will help you manage the process and keep your task organized.

not my hair, just an example
Shed hairs be gone. The human head sheds on average 50-100 hairs each day. If you have curly coils, these little buggers are probably getting stuck in your coils rather than slipping out on their own. Detangling will help you get these hairs out and prevent tangles from reforming.
Timing is everything. Chances are you don't need to detangle once a day. Take sometime to figure out how often you really need to be detangling in your regular regimen. Weekly, bi-weekly, monthly are all good choices!
Ok, now that we're done with the foundation of detangling, lets talk about the various detangling methods. I am a firm believer that each of these methods have their own time and place. The great thing about being the boss of your very own self is that you can mix and match these techniques as you see fit within your own routines and hair care regimens.
Finger Detangling

Perhaps the most gentle of all detangling methods. Your fingers are like nature's combs and the great part about using your own hands is that they are part of your own nervous system, meaning that unlike plastic, they can really feel out knots and use their dexterity to work through them. Finger detangling is great for focusing on major knots and working to break them up one strand at a time. Never ever ever do the thing where you stick two fingers into a section of hair and pry them open to pop open a knot at the tip of your hair. That popping sound is your hair breaking. Sad.
Finger detangling is also a great option to use before combing or brushing to get rid of any big snarls before really getting into the nitty gritty of the process.
Brushing

The most polarizing detangling method in curly hair-dom. While some curlies' hair starts to break at the mention of the word 'Tangle Teezer', others should be posed on the cover of a Harlequin romance novel with their modified Denman D3. The thing about brushing is that if it works for you, it WORKS. With all of those rows of teeth, after a thorough brushing there will be no tangles to be found on your head. The key with brushing is that you must, must BE GENTLE. Be delicate, be tender, be soft. You are not MarciaMarciaMarcia Brady and should not aimlessly brush your hair as if you were. If you hear snapping: stop. If you see short strands covering your sink: quit. If you notice split ends: call it a day.

Combing

Probably the safest bet in the detangling department. It's thorough, it's efficient, and unless you're not following the basics, it's gentle. Select a model with widely spaced teeth and a good grip for holding. A basic wide tooth comb will run you a couple bucks at a beauty supply store, but you can upgrade to jazzier versions such as a seamless comb, shower comb (hangs in the shower), or the Ouidad Double Detangler (with it's 2 rows of teeth) to name a few.

Ok, fine I get it. But what do YOU do, Cass??
Ouidad Double Detangler all the way baby. That thing is a workhorse (and probably as heavy as one too). The double spans of teeth slice and dice my detangling time in half, while the wide width of the spaces between the teeth ensure that I'm not doing damaging my fine strands while I pull the comb through my hair. I also like that it's pretty sizable so that I can work through large-ish sections of hair. I've noticed no breakage or splits with this comb and its more efficient than using just a single wide tooth comb. I detangle religiously once a week, and if I push this any longer, I will really be paying for it and cutting out locs that form at the end of my coils. Again, sad.
I am in the process of considering - just considering - using the Tangle Teezer once a month on my hair. I tried it for the first time just yesterday and I loved the smoothness I got, but I've read enough reviews about TT imposed breakage to know that frequent use of this tool could wreak havoc on my fine strands. I am considering using it because it really did a great job of pulling out my shed hairs and I liked the thoroughness of the tool.
This is the Tangle Teaser

The Moral of the Story
Detangling is a way of life for naturals and for fine haired naturals is can be a dangerous endeavor. Just make sure to listen to your hair and find a method that works for your your curl pattern and your porosity. Remember that fine hair is more fragile than most so treat it as such. Do not rip, pull, or tug. Break out the scissors if and only if you can't get a tangle out with any of the above methods (some tangles just won't budge). Get your combs and brushes through gently and with ease. If your tangles are unrelenting, think about using a different method or getting a trim.
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Oil Spill for 100?

Hi Ladies and Gents,

Since it’s been extremely hot like 90 and up and it’s important for us Naturalista’s to properly moisturize the hair etc.  Have anyone experienced any oil spills yet? I recently purchased some coconut oil because I’ve heard great reviews about it.  However the day before yesterday oil kept running down my face, on the sides, and in the back non-stop. What is that about?  I was so embarrassed literally and wanted to runaway.  I honestly don’t believe I over oiled my hair and is that even possible to do? Or is it normal in the summer time? Any help would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks so much in advanced!

Update: I also use 17 Essential Oils which is by my favorite YouTuber  blackonyx I usually grease my scalp with this every other day. I like that it has a little applicator because I tend to be messing with some things. haha. I think it promotes hair growth and a healthy scalp. I don't know if she says that or not, but it works for me  when I have protective styles like braids and twists. Another one of my favorite moisturizer is by Oyin Handmade.... more specifically Greg's Juice on hot days like this I spray it in my hair. Then I hop in the shower, and let the steam from the shower soak in my hair. (I do that method in the winter time) In the summer time, I just spray it on my hair and go. Plus it smells really yummy. I have Greg's Juice, Juices and Berries, and Frank Juice. But my favorite is Greg's Juice. I also bought a small spray bottle, I filled half with Greg's Juice and the other with water and I place it in my purse and I spray it on my hair throughout the day.

How to do your own Spring Twists/ Nubian Twists/Fluffy Twist

I found this link and I thought you guys would like it.I really want to get this look next!..This fluffy twists link tells you how to do your very on Fluffy/Puffy Twist.. 

In case you are wondering, this is what they look like






Wow, you "pull-off" that natural hair so well—not everybody can do that…

I have been natural for quite some time now, I’ve noticed that I come across this “compliment” quite often…“Wow, you pull-off that natural hair so well—not everybody can do that…” For some reason this statement irks me. While I know that the person is most likely being genuine, I can’t help but wonder about the implications of the statement. There are so many perceptions that come to mind when I hear this, but I want to hear from you all first! So, what do you think about the above statement? Has someone said something similar to you? Please weigh in!

Jill Scott says" I wasn't trying to be the spokeperson for natural hair"

Well I’ll be spamned.lol You know I have been waiting on someone to do a interview with Jill Scott about the fact that she’s not “natural” anymore and I finally got it. In a interview with Afro Bella Jill states “I wasn’t trying to be the spokesperson of natural hair” and you know what, I’m not mad at her. Check out what all she had to say below.
Afrobella: …to so many people, they look at your and they brand you as an icon that speaks to their particular experience. So to so many women, you’re considered a natural hair icon, or plus size icon and now you’re in a period in your life where you’re changing. How is that, and how do you feel about being seen that way by women and how do you feel about your hair and your beauty and your evolution that we’re all getting to see right now? 
Jill Scott: Well I think that change is good, and its necessary. Typically when I go through something, I’ll always cut my hair off. And I’ll wear wigs, and I’ll wear weaves and I’ll wear pieces because I like fashion. I like style and its fun to me. I’m very much a girl and I don’t know. I wont say worried…I’m interested to see how people look at me as someone who’s lost 60 [lbs] and working on 20 more. I’m interested to see if they’ll still feel connected to me or not. I don’t know. I wasn’t trying to be the spokesperson of natural hair. I just like my hair. I like how it feels, I like how I look. I enjoy my culture and my heritage. I see my mother and my father in my hair and I enjoy that. But at the same time I’ve been natural for 20 years and it was time to change. And when I get bored of this, I’ll cut my hair off again.
When it comes down to it, if you ask me just because a celeb is natural, unless they come out like ooohhhh say Kim Coles did you really cant blame them for changing their hair style. I mean really when it comes down it its their hair and who are we to get brittle about what these celebrities do and don’t do with their hair. Another way to put it is, you wouldn't want anyone telling you how to do your Natural Hair journey and if you decided to go back to perming I would think you would be a little irritated if everyone was jumping on you about YOUR hair as if, if you don't have hair like them anymore they feel like they have no reason to hang in there. I don't that's just me. Don't get me wrong I realize that when things like this it means there is one less person repping for naturals but at the same time, its and it is what it is situation and there is nothing that we can do about it.
All I gotta say is as long as her hair stays looking nice I could care less if she’s natural or not.
What do y'all think?????
Side Note: I will say this though, if she so didn't want to be a spokesperson for naturals why did she really go out and get a type 4a like wig and wear that on her album cover. Do you think it was because she just likes hair like she said, or do you think it’s because old habits die hard, and she just was having a I wanna be natural moment.

Who Have You INSPIRED to go Natural?

I have been natural two years and two months.(I BC April 17, 2009) and since then I have inspired five people to go natural. I was so comfortable with my natural hair and made it look so good other women hopped on the natural journey scene! Other women have said they will join me when they get in their 40's but why not now? Now is the time so when they become forty they will have bra strap hair length. Natural Hair is a movement that is progressing at an unbelievable rate! My former church, I swear every other woman was natural! Natural is in and it can not be stopped!

New Hairstyle June 10th

Went to the shop the other day, and look what my stylist Did... Special Shoutout goes to my girl Faith of Black Butterfly... If you want her info hit me up!

back view

the front, it is a little blurry

front

Cut Down on Hot Styling Tools Tip # 2

The heat from styling tools, such as hair dryers, curling irons, flat irons or hot rollers, can leave hair dry and damaged—which leads to more frizz. In addition, hair tends to form uniform curls more easily when it dries naturally. I always let my hair air dry.  Try to keep the use of these hot styling tools to a minimum. When a flat iron or hair dryer is a must, use a silicone-based serum beforehand to protect hair from the heat and control frizz. Also if you are always using heat to your hair, this can change your curl pattern, and also possible break your hair off. For example when you use to relax your hair, you didn't apply a perm to your hair every day or every week did you? No, because you would be bald. Everything is always about moderation. Applying heat once in  a while is ok, but not all the time. Remember our natural hair is very delicate. ;)

Never Use a Hairbrush on Your Curls!

Never Use a Hairbrush on Your Curls!Skip the hairbrush—separate your curls and define your hair style with a wide-toothed comb, A DENMAN BRUSH or your fingers. Don't brush your hair ever at all! Get yourself a wide-tooth comb and comb your hair while it's wet (you may want to comb the conditioner through in the shower to help with tangles). Brushing while wet will break your hair, and brushing while dry is a curly hair sin.
i like to call this the YES List
This gr8 for detangling, AND DEFINING CURLS.

I go back and forth with this comb and the one below. Its a gr8 detangler.

Gr8 for detangling your hair

Always comb your hair when its wet. Always detangle your hair when its wet

Sleep on a Satin Pillowcase

When you sleep, you toss and turn, which creates friction that causes tangles, split ends and breakage. Satin pillowcases minimize hair breakage and reduce split ends. Satin pillowcases also make it easier to maintain hairstyles. Using satin on your hair, whether a pillowcase or a scarf, helps maintain the moisture in the hair. Cotton and other materials dry hair out, which adds to frizz.
I PURCHASE MY SATIN PILLOW CASES AT SALLYS

Cut Down on Hot Styling Tools

The heat from styling tools, such as hair dryers, curling irons, flat irons or hot rollers, can leave hair dry and damaged—which leads to more frizz. In addition, hair tends to form uniform curls more easily when it dries naturally. Try to keep the use of these hot styling tools to a minimum. When a flat iron or hair dryer is a must, use a silicone-based serum before hand to protect hair from the heat and control frizz.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

TOP 5 NATURAL HAIR TIPS

 So I found this flyer online and I thought the tips were so true that I decided to share with you all! I don't use this praticualr product line, but the tips that they gave are true.


Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Healthy Eating = Healthy Hair

Since healthy hair and skin starts from within, let's encourage each other on eating better foods, not only for luscious hair and glowing skin but for our overall health as well.

My Diet

Here's a list of foods that I try to eat:( Sometimes I slip up)

Whole grains, nuts and seeds
Fruits and vegetables
Soy products
turkey and salmon
2 multiviatmins a day
I eat 6 small portioned out meals a days. I count my calories intake each day.
On a avg. I eat between 1200-1500 calories a day.
I try to drink at least 64oz of water per day And I try to work out at least 3-4 days out of the week
I will try to post if I can remember healthy food tips that I have learned from my personal trainer. 
I hope this post helped! Be blessed and have a gr8 evening!

4 Major Causes of Hair Breakage

by GiGi of The BeautyXchange

Healthy hair is important to women regardless of hair type or texture. Do you know any woman who wants to walk around with bald spots or hair that is falling out and/or shedding excessively? Chances are you don't. If not taken seriously, breakage can cause lasting affects on your hair's health.


1. Hairstyles - If there is tightness or tension on your scalp from any style chances are you will suffer from severe breakage. Although hair is comprised of protein, keratin to be exact - it is fragile especially around the nape and crown. If there is tugging, pulling, pressure, tightness this can lead to bald patches.

From my own personal experience I can tell you that the way you choose to style your hair is important in preventing and/or minimizing breakage. Recently, I wore synthetic extensions styled in braids for two months. At the time, I had them done I was wincing in pain at the tightness of the braids on my scalp. I suffered major breakage at the crown of my head as a result.

2. Styling Tools - Excessive use of heat related tools like blow dryers, flat irons, curling irons, hot rollers, etc will weaken your hair's cuticle. Limit the frequency of usage and minimize the length of time the heat is in contact with your hair. If you are using heating tools excessively make sure to deep condition your hair on a weekly basis.

3. Manipulating Wet Hair - If your hair is wet try to minimize its manipulation. Wet hair is more susceptible to breakage than dry hair. Use a detangler to reduce tangles and knots. Also, use a wide tooth comb to section and detangle. If a brush must be used, make sure to start at the ends and work your way up while holding your hair taut at the base.

4. Styling Products - The excessive use of chemical processes like coloring, straightening, and bleaching will dry your hair out if not maintained properly which will in turn cause, brittle, vulnerable hair susceptible to breakage. Limit the use of these products and be sure to condition accordingly when necessary.

Of course there are other factors that also contribute to hair breakage - such as illness and/or nutrition. However, these four factors are controllable by you. If you are able to minimize these causes you will be doing you and your hair a great service.
Have you recently dealt with breakage?
What was the culprit?
What are you doing to remedy things?

This is me Naturally: You got questions I got answers

This is me Naturally: You got questions I got answers

Protecting your hair while swimming

It is spring/summer time and I don't know about you, but that means swimming. I don't really swim, but I learning... I thought these tips would be helpful for you natural who like to have fun in the sun.... I found these on YouTube for you guys to watch... I hope their tips help. Be blessed and have a gr8 day!
I like this video as well. She basically says the same thing,but she also gives some other tips.
Are you natural with colored hair? You might want to watch this video then...
AND GUYS DON'T FORGET ONCE YOU GET OUT OF THE POOL TO COMPLETELY RINSE YOUR HAIR, AND WHEN YOU GET HOME  REMEMBER TO WASH YOUR HAIR., DON'T W8 DAYS L8R.. YOU DON'T WANT YOUR HAIR TO MAT UP!

Monday, May 30, 2011

Frizz Tip of the day for your hair:

SPF For Your Locks!To decrease sun damage, use a shampoo with a built-in SPF (sun protection factor). SPF protects your hair when you're outside just like it does for your skin—plus, it prevents it from drying out